Love is not a size-fit-all deal-if it was, every pair will be blissful in the sync, and the physician will be out of business. Enter the principle of love languages: obtaining words of confirmation, quality time, physical touch, service functions, and gifts.
Cracking this code is believed to cause eternal relationship harmony. Looks valid … or is it astrology only for couples?
Let’s be real – what is our heart race on 50+, it is not the same as our 20s rollercaster crush. But one thing is true: Knowing and speaking of your partner’s love language is a game-changer.
Why do love languages matter?
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improved communication: When you speak their love language, they really feel love.
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More intimateness: Deep emotional bond? Yes, please!
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Low struggle: Understanding love languages = less “you don’t appreciate me” logic.
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Personal Development: The way your partner needs sympathy and attenuation, learn to love him.
Now, let’s dive some real life in love language!
(As a Dating coach These are real from my customers — does everyone use them? No. But this can be helpful if you come to read one’s profile).
1. Service Work: MVP of thoughtful gestures
60 -year -old Pau is raising the bar. Every morning, he brings his fellow coffee into bed (he is not a morning person). He also gases his car, takes it to wash the car, and asks, “How can I make your day easier?” (Omg, can we clone it?). Meanwhile, Meli picked up his 14 -year -old twin children three times a week, while he is playing tennis. Now this is teamwork!
2. Getting gifts: This is the idea that matters
Anna, 42, admits gifts – but it is not about diamonds and designer bags. Her partner, Mike, gives her a grand papirus card with hearty messages, and she proudly pinns her to her office. He also has a trader who has a ritual: groceries + a plant or flower = quick bliss.
3. Words of confirmation: flatter you find everywhere
Jeff, 51, kills the gym four days a week, and when he goes home, Audrey congratulated him, “Wow, I like to feel your arms – you have the best biceps and triceps!” Immediate smile. And when she returns to visit her children in NYC, she welcomes her, “It’s not just a home without you – I missed you a lot.” Heart. Melted
4. Quality Time: Seamless Connection
Susan, 61, and Tim, 64, have a Friday tradition: nine holes of golf, no cell phone, just fun. Sunday morning? Bike ride. Twice a week, they cook together – Susan chooses dishes, and Tim, the world’s best sous chef, handle chopping, jhanjhari and cleaning. (Let’s hear it for real MVP!)
5. Words of confirmation (again, because it is important!)
The 37 -year -old Christopher ensures that Marta knows that she is appreciated: “Wow, you’re the best cook!” And “I like the ideas of your design – our house never looks so bright and modern.” Confirmation = love fuel.
It is not about grand gestures – it performs a little daily work of love that thrives relationships. So, are love languages valid?
(Spoiler: Answer Yes!)
