Talking to Datars throughout the day, it sounds like 30 years every day (but who is counting?), I have heard all this. Drama, The Heartbreak, The Ghosting Saga, and, of course, “Why is this so difficult?”
So, let’s dive the biggest hit – which I listen to the complaint Continuous When people call me:
1. Online dating is tired.
Do you? run Using a dating app or one? If it looks like a full -time job, you are either overpoting it or just thinking about it very difficult. Pro Tip: If you are spending more than 90 minutes a week, you can add “dating app overlord” to your linkedIn profile.
2. I don’t even know where to start – it’s heavy!
You just get out of a 10, 20, or 30 -year relationship, and now you know that there is there 1,400 Dating apps?! I will be overwhelmed by typing that number. We do In fact Only those require an app that prefer sour bread? (Yes, it exists.) No wonder you want to leave before starting!
Because you went online for two weeks and not met one? Honey, Amazon Prime has ruined your patience. Good things take time. Give it three months, and I About Guarantee you will have a different story.
4. All good men are married.
Oh, look – another entry into “urban myths of dating”! Quite fun, my more than 50% of my customers are male, and they swear All Good women are taken. So unless there is a secret underground society of “good people”, unless we are hidden from all, I am saying BS.
5. All men want to date the younger.
Ah yes, notorious “Peter PAN syndrome.” But here is reality – Stanford Research only shows 20% The men’s date is quite shorter. Other 80% of their age are happy with someone within five years of their age. so do we In fact Does care about that 20%? When we drink our alcohol peacefully, they chase them the trend of Tiktok.
6. Nobody answers me!
Ok, I’m going to be blunt: You Some are doing wrong. If your opening line is “hey” or worse, A Wink emojiYou deserve to be ignored. Try some fun, strange or specific. Trust me, it works.
7. I send a lot of messages and get zero reactions.
Are you, however? I am sure if you have a message logs (Oh hey, one on page 401 of my book Second Act: Winning strategies for dating), You will be surprised at how much you are really attached. Time to expose that excuse!
8. This is a full -time task, and why can’t I meet anyone Bawl,
Because for biological BlueberryNot dating. If you are waiting for someone to meet someone in the coffee shop, as it’s Rome-Com, you can start carrying a boombox and start wearing a trench coat in the rain. Time has changed!
Okay, we will take a break here because the time is A’wastin — Let’s make a 15-minute call together — no pain, no pressure. I want to hear about you — and how can I help. Use this link to book me for 15 minutes and do all this — what you want and what you have not done so far. I am a good listener! Click here to set the call.
9. I keep thinking that my friends will set me, but they never do.
Because they love you – but they are No Your personal matchmaking service. In addition, they know that there are 1,400 dating apps, so why should they work? Stop laying them. You want to keep your friends, right?
10. The quality of people online is terrible.
This is not 2005. Things have changed. I have Three customers a week Long -term participants meet online. And for record, I met my boy Sixth First date. (Even my Pre-husband Met his wife on Bumble. No, I am not bitter. excess.)
11. Dating sites are terrible.
Yes, some of them are dumpster fire. But others? Want to know which people? Read 97-113 pages of my book, where I break it completely. And no, just because your brother found his wife on farming, it does not mean that it will work for you. As long as, of course, you own Tractor.
12. I am nervous people will see me online and think I am losing.
Newsflash: This is 2025. You are already on LinkedIn, Instagram and Facebook. One of my customers – a famous athlete – was worried about it Until I reminded him that his two companions met his wives online. He became over it. you will also.
13. I am online for a month and had zero dates.
No date = no effort. If you are just current On an app without sending the message, it is like showing a party and standing in the corner, waiting for someone Information You. Spoiler: They will not.
14. I was married for 30 years, and the idea of dating again frightens me.
Of course it does. You did not walk thinking, “Can’t wait to do so again.” But new things are always scary. Take some help, create your confidence, and remember: 45 or 64 No Old. You have a lot of time for another great love.
15. Online dating will not work for me.
Why? Are you a vampire? Do you live on a deserted island without any WiFi? Because until you are actively vandalizing yourself, this Be able to do Work for you Let’s talk about why you think it’s not – because it’s something Energy of 1990s We need to leave behind.
16. I do not necessarily want to marry again, but I to do Want a long -term companion.
perfectly normal. In fact, my customers break into this way: ✔ 1/3 get married. 1/3 live together. 1/3 has a special long -term relationship.
there is No A size-fit-for all love.
Now, people sometimes call me and say, “Andrea, I am very excited to try online dating!”,
But do you think? If you take a chance, you It is possible Just call me with a completely different story in a few weeks.
Start with my book (last week’s press closed hot!) To get into the right mentality. It has 14 worksheet, 14 QR code with me, and has a roadmap that helps prevent you from swipe in frustration.
And if you are really ready? Call me Let’s make it funTu
This is just a lunch matchmaking business after selling it successfully, Andrea McGinty founded 33000dates.com Where she helps the 40-70-year children to navigate online dating with 65% success rate. She writes a profile, choosing sites, coaches and more. Andrea is depicted on Oprah, AARP, Peepal, Today Show, WSJ+. He is a writer 2 Act: 166 Winning strategies for more than 50 dating Now sales.
